Everyone has expectations. Expectations for ourselves, our kids, our bosses, our family & friends—even, and especially, expectations for God. But expectations often don’t translate into reality. And when that happens—when our expectations don't match our experiences—frustration enters the picture, along with anger, depression and hopelessness. But what if we saw our edited expectations as “Divine Detours?” What if we embraced them as opportunities for God to show up in bigger and better ways than ever before?

We have expectations for the people around us—that they will react a certain way, that they will build us up, that they will fulfill our needs. But of course, no one can actually live up to all the lofty expectations we set. And when they don’t, relationships get ruined. So, what can we do to edit our expectations to find true fulfillment in our relationships?

Talking Points Discussion Guide

Message Notes

Expectations are premeditated resentments.

When my experiences don’t match my expectations, __________ enters my life.

”This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.”
Matthew 1:18-19 NIV

“Maury & Joseph”

I can’t expect others to embrace what they didn’t experience.

“This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit.”
Matthew 1:18 NIV

What if others fall short of my expectations because they’re living up to someone else’s?

“Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.”
Matthew 1:19 NIV

Don’t let what you expected from others to ruin what you experience from God.